Child Discipline – Do Children Even Want It?

As one of seven children in my family, and with years of child care and a degree in child development behind me, I just knew that, after pregnancy, my problems would be over. Ha! What a joke. One of our first challenges was dealing with our daughter's incessant night wakings and demands for feeding. After a few days, I realized there were a lot of answers I did not have and we headed off to a bookstore for some guidance in the form of literature.

Beside a book on helping babies to sleep, we spotted a little book on discipline that we thought might be interesting. We bought our purchases home and took a nap while the baby was still sleeping in her car seat.

It was not until a few days later that my husband and I broke into the book on discipline, reading it out loud. At first we were excited to glean any important knowledge we could from the book, but it did not take long for us to realize that this book was not what we were looking for. At all. After that we just read it for laughs.

What was so funny about the book? The entire promise was that a child should not be "stifled" in their growth and development by rules and boundaries. A healthy, creative, and happy child came from an environment where he was allowed to do what he liked, was "free" and encouraged in everything he did. Structure or parental expectations would ruin a child.

Could this be? Maybe in fairy tales, but not in the world we live in. We are free to believe that the world is flat and that you can fall over the edge, we can refuse to accept the law of gravity, or organize a protest against plate tectonics. Or, we can learn about our amazing and beautiful world and learn how to live in it. Only then can we be truly free. Free to believe the truth of cause and effect and natural laws, and not to let ourselves feel that they are not fair or are restricting.

The fact is that our children do not only need structure and discipline, they actually want it. The book we bought on sleep offered a suggestion that we wrap our daughter tightly in a blank to help her fall fall faster faster. It worked! She did not hate being restricted, she was finally able to relax without trying to figure out what to do with her hands! She felt cozy and secure and restful. She needed help, and we helped her. And she was happier. I love seeing pictures of my kids when they are babies wrapped up like a cute little burrito with that peaceful sleeping face. It reminds me that children really do come into this world in need of protection, comfort and to be shown how to be comfortable and happy here. This is what discipline is all about!

In parenting, discipline should not be the main goal, but we must realize that when applied wisely and with respect to the child's agency and right to make mistakes at times – it can become a great way to get the actual goal, which is self- discipline – a quality that seems to be getting more and more scarce these days.

Source by Lisa Lee Pawlik

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When Weight Loss Surgery Releases Other Addictions

What would it be like, to be able to control an obsession for chocolate? Take it up a notch and think about people seeking to control full-scale eating disorders, drug addiction, gambling, smoking, drinking… even compulsive shopping!

When “food becomes my comfort” and someone crushes the bathroom scales at morbidly obese levels, body image goals and eating disorders can easily morph into a full flowering of addictive compulsions. This person is psychologically armed and dangerous to themselves. The question is what can they do to regain control over these impulse disorders?

Filling an inner void typically involves the steady build-up of an obsessive compulsive drive. Self worth, body image and any number of ego-enhancing drives push a person into ritualized behavior, most of which aggravates rather than soothes the soul.

Weight loss surgery, bariatric surgery where up to 90% of the stomach is surgically tied off in order to limit food intake, would seem to be all about excess food and binge eating resulting in at-risk obesity. Yet, gastric bypass surgery is purely “mechanical” and doesn’t deal with underlying neurological dependence issues.

However, deeper down in psychological space, other factors are at play, as new research into addictive behavior suggests. Thinking that their days of body image phobia and obesity are now over following weight loss surgery, perhaps 30% or more of men and women increasingly discover that something deeper remains, namely the drive towards any-and-all addictions. What’s next? Drug abuse, alcoholism, gambling, over-the-top consumerism and compulsive shopping behavior.

Addiction Transfer – Where Eating Disorder Morphs Into Another Obsession. In the psychiatric theory spectrum with genetics (nature) on one end and behavior-reinforcement (nurture) on the other end, latest research news is that people with an “addictive” tendency keep it, re-dress it, but never entirely place it under wraps.

Weight loss surgery produces profound body shaping and body image transformations, yet “window dress” your body and the mind continues to seek other avenues for obsessive compulsive focus. In the case of bariatric surgery getting thin only creates a “re-direct” of the baseline impulse-control disorder into new areas where new urges and craving take over. Think of it. A person loses 200 pounds of built-up weight, then turns to drinking two bottles of whiskey a day!

Remedies Research – Altering Brain Neurology. Unlike shrimp and bovine cattle, humans possess nature’s state-of-art brain. 4 million miles of nerve fibers and neurological horsepower to drive over 10 billion brain cells, each with as much as 25,000 synapse-connection to other cells. And so, what about gaining control over addictions, whether eating disorders like binge eating and anorexia, or gambling, or drug abuse?

* Bio-Chemical Intervention. Some research already reveals that certain classes of obsessive behavior, like binge eating disorders, associate with depressed levels of the regulating brain hormones serotonin and neuroepinephrine and dopamine. Increasing these hormones acts on the brain’s neurological structure, effectively blocking certain receptor sites, altering bio-chemical messaging. Result? You get an immediate uptick in “feel good” sensations.

* Drug Addiction – Blocking Receptor Sites. When “addiction transfer” takes a person from body image obsessions to drug abuse, there’s a risk of falling into equally life threatening addiction as with opiates. Fortunately, these addictions are being attacked using new neural receptor-blocking drugs such as suboxane. How does it work? The neural pathways associated with ‘drug craving and pleasure’ are traced by suboxone, which occupies these neural receptor sites, thus silencing the addictive craving, and bio-chemically road-blocking the site so that heroin cannot enter, thus renders it useless.

Treating Underlying Anxiety And Depression. Other mood altering drug classes are known as benzodiazepines, and are offered under brands including Xanax or Valium. For 70% of the population, these powerful drug mediators work to slow the drive towards addiction relief.

Source by Robin J. Derry

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What Is A Bipolar Disorder?

There is nothing quite so frightening as being diagnosed with a mental disorder. However, millions of Americans are being diagnosed with bipolar disorder every day, people who are part of loving families, respected in the workplace and live full and rich lives.

Bipolar disorder is a condition that is still being explored by scientists and doctors around the world. As a brain disorder, it is often hard to diagnose and can present itself in many different ways depending on the patient’s past history, lifestyle, temperament and behaviors. The disorder can strike male or female, rich or poor and young or old.

No one is guaranteed safe from developing the condition. Family history and genetics has a lot to do with increased chances of inheriting the predisposition for the disease, as does substance abuse. Studies have shown that nearly half of patients diagnosed with the condition these days are former drug abusers.

Bipolar disorder affects the mood swings and behavior of those suffering from it, and can range from mild, moderate or severe episodes of depression to more normal or balanced moods to ‘hyper’ behaviors as well as mania. The spectrum offers almost a sliding scale of behaviors that usually present and remain for days, weeks, sometimes even years.

Many people diagnosed with the condition lead happy, fairly normal lives with periods of depression that hit every few years, while others suffer episodes of severe depression that may occur more than four or more times a year. Such a rapid chance in behaviors in such a short time span is called ‘rapid-cycling’ and affects personal and professional aspects of a patient’s life.

Bipolar disorder is classified in two ways. Type I, or the Classic form, finds patients suffering from repeating episodes of both severe periods of depression and mania, while Type II presents itself as a more mild form of the disease. Many people diagnosed with Type II lead fairly happy, normal lives and are able to work and remain constructive forces in society.

As a matter of fact, many of us work with such people on a daily basis and don’t even realize it. More severe forms of bipolar disorder may find someone experiencing multiple, severe episodes in a year, and in fact, many experience such episodes on a weekly or daily basis. For some people, a change of seasons can provoke episodes, and coincide with the Winter Blues. Such depression clears up in Spring and Summer, and then again cycles down again the following Fall.

While all of us, at one time or another, experience a wide range of mood swings on a regular basis, those with bipolar disorder issues find themselves on a roller coaster that they can’t get off. If left untreated, symptoms can lead to increased and more severe episodes. While the specific causes of bipolar disorder remain a mystery for the most part, doctors and scientists are honing in on genetics to discover the answers to a mental condition that has perplexed mankind for centuries.

Source by Riley Hendersen

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