Mirroring is a natural process we use every day in our interaction with other people. However, once its mechanism is dissected and understood, it can become a powerful mind control tool.
Mirroring is the process of becoming as much like the person you are trying to influence, as possible. You can accomplish this by mimicking both their physical (e.g. body language) and non-physical (e.g. values, thoughts, ideas, perception of reality) traits. Mirroring is necessary in influence because in order to influence someone, you must first build rapport with them and mirroring is one of the most effective means of building rapport.
Rapport, according to Merriam-Webster online dictionary, is a relation marked by harmony, conformity, accord, or affinity. So essentially, by deliberately mirroring or becoming like another person, you are ‘artificially’ establishing the state of rapport that occurs spontaneously in everyday life between people who like each other. You must first build rapport with someone in order to influence them, because people are motivated by emotions, not thoughts; therefore, to get them to do something, you must stir their emotions, appeal to their hearts, not their heads. Don’t try to change peoples minds; change their mood and their mind will follow.
An example of natural, commonly-occurring mirroring is the following: people in normal, everyday conversation, even if they are mere acquaintances with a low level of rapport, tend to adopt similar facial expressions. This is done automatically and is below their level of awareness. That is one reason why people with conditions such as autism, who are not as aware of, or as responsive to social cues, as neurotypical (‘normal’) people, find social interaction so challenging. Moreover, it has been hypothesized that we have specialized neurons in our brain that are responsible for reproducing in us (i.e. mirroring) other people’s feelings, emotions etc and are thought to be part of the neurological basis of phenomena such as empathy, morality etc. I mention all these examples as evidence that we have evolved to mirror one another naturally on many different levels.
Is mirroring immoral? As with any form of mind control, mirroring is neither moral nor immoral, because it is simply a means to an end. If the end is to influence other people positively through mirroring, then it is not immoral. The reverse of course is also true.
In what ways can you mirror a person’s reality? Generally, two; you can mirror both their external as well as their internal reality.