3 Important Steps for Keeping Your Child Safe From Abuse

This is an ever-changing world and there are many things in it that we would like to protect our children from . The last thing any parent wants to see is their child violated, hurt or in pain.

As parents, we do our best to provide our children with safety equipment, expose them to lessons that will give them the tools to protect themselves and be there for them when they need us. Unfortunately, we can not be with our children 24-7, especially as they grow and venture into the world towards independence.

After our role as protector, we can only control so much of what will happen to our children BUT we can equip them with the most powerful weapon of all – knowledge and information.

A parent's worst nightmares are many and having your child fall victim to sexual abuse is perhaps one of the worst among them . Is it possible to make a child abuse-proof and resistant to the enticements of a perpetrator?

In addition to all the quick and easy stranger danger tips and the important information found in books and on websites – the message that their body belongs to them, encouraging them never to keep secrets, telling them to say NO – what more can a parent do ?

There is a lot a parent can do in order to protect their children from this heinous crime even if a child is on the Autism spectrum and they can begin at a very early age . True protection goes beyond telling your socially challenged child not to talk to strangers – true protection lies in creating a child that is internally resistant, a child whose inner strength will make them less vulnerable to the crafty approaches of a child molester.

The following suggestions may seem simple because we automatically do them as parents but we often do not realize how powerful they are in keeping our children safe:

1 – Strive to enhance your child's assertiveness skills : Learning how to be appropriately assertive rather than aggressive or passive is one of the best gifts we can give our children. Individuals who seek out children for their own distributed purposes are counting on them to be passive and will not spend time grooming a child who is likely to speak up for herself. We can begin this process at the early age of two or before when our little cherubs take their first step towards assertion by discovering the word "no". This simple word contains much power and could be the one thing that keeps them safe.

Simply encouraging your child to look at the color of a person's eyes when talking to them will make them appear confident and self-assured. This may be a difficult task for most kids with Autism but it is doable if practiced persistently. The trick is to teach your child the right balance between assertiveness and aggression and still remain respectful. This is why good social training training is important.

2 – Help your child acquire a capable sense of self . Children who appear capable are less likely to be targeted by individuals who prey upon children. These individuals are searching for those who are vulnerable, those who seem helpless. Helping your child become independent is your job and the sooner you nurture appropriate independence the better.

As you teach your children to do things for themselves rather than do it for them, their confidence grows. Do not ever hesitate to help your child learn and master a new task if you think they are ready because the feeling of "I can do it myself" is powerful and will serve as one more layer of protection from the hands of a perpetrator.

3 – Make sure your child knows what a healthy relationship is : Your child must have an accurate sense of what constitutes a healthy relationship in order to have proper instinctual knowledge – a gut feeling – of what is normal. Perpetrators spend a lot of their time trying to convince their intended victim that "this is what people do when they care about each another". Their success lies in their attempts to normalize the invasive behaviors that they use to set up their potential victims.

Be very specific and make sure your child knows that a healthy relationship does NOT require keeping secrets, uncomfortable Touches and insidious remarks. This will ensure that these messages fall on deaf ears. They will know that "normal" does not mean constant enticement with gifts, atypical attention, special favors or uninvited physical contact.

Your job must go beyond role modeling healthy relationships to talking about it with your children, honestly, specifically and often, until they fly from your nest. When your children are grounded in what a healthy relationship looks like, sounds like and feels like, you are not only providing them with strong armor that will shield them from possible harm but important knowledge that will reap many positive benefits in all aspects of their life for years to come.

Source by Connie Hammer

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Home ABA Therapy Can Work For Your Child

Many parents of autistic children feel torn in their approach to treating their child. Often a lack of insurance coverage prevents them from being able to hire an ABA Training provider. While home ABA Therapy is an option, many parents feel unqualified and worry that they may not be well suited to teach their children. While not all parents are able to teach their children using ABA Training methods, the truth is that a great many parents can use this method effectively. It requires no degree or special certification, only a willingness to stick to a curriculum and a devotion to providing your child the best possible hope for recovery.

ABA Training at home doesn’t require a special degree, but it does require dedication. Many parents purchase an ABA Training program, but when faced with questions find themselves stuck with no one to talk to. That is why it is important for people who offer quality ABA Therapy programs to offer parents a way to take to specialized behaviorists and ABA providers. When it comes to ABA and teaching children, having all the right information is very important. With access to specialists who can help you develop a curriculum without the need to pay an ongoing fee for their services, parents find themselves in a position to finally provide their children with the quality of ABA Training that they deserve.

Another way that many parents find to make home ABA Therapy work is to seek training methods that are very well developed and scientifically sound rather than simply looking for an inexpensive alternative. It is possible to find an affordable ABA program that is in-depth and truly designed to help your children reach their maximum potential. Such programs are quite comprehensive and cover everything from behavioral reactions and data collection to fundamentals such as prompting, reinforcement, and discrete trial teaching. These programs also cover all aspects of teaching, from helping children to understand common ongoing actions to helping them develop the ability to look at a picture and easily determine things that are out of place. All of this serves to help them learn vital critical thinking skills.

In short, home ABA Therapy can be as successful as ABA Training in a therapists office or other setting. What is most important is what is being taught and that the teaching methods follow protocol. When these things are happening, a home environment may actually prove more comfortable for a child and help to facilitate the child’s transition into teaching with greater ease. Home ABA Therapy enables all parents a chance to equip their children with the skill necessary for school and the outside world, and with the right course parents truly have the ability to give their children the lives they always wished for them.

Source by Garrett Butch

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What Is It: ODD or Asperger's?

My son has been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. He can be very oppositional and defiant. So exactly what is the difference between behaviors associated with Asperger's and those of Oppositional Defiant Disorder?

This is an insightful question because, quite frankly, the line separating the two conditions sometimes can be quite fine. That being said, I can not see where I would diagnose both conditions in the same child, although I've seen it done. In the case of these two conditions, it's best to stay with one or the other.

First of all, it's quite possible that behaviors characteristic of ODD will continue without ever being diagnosed. Short-term interventions may bring just enough compliance for a child to clear a hurdle, such as doing just enough work at the end of the school year to pass (barely). Then everyone takes a break … until the next hurdle.

A child with Asperger's, the highest level of functioning on a diagnostic continuum called Autism Spectrum Disorders, is less likely to slip through the cracks undiagnosed. Youngsters with Asperger's tend to have unusual mannerisms that, over time, are bound to be recognized and addressed.

Let's compare these two youngsters on five characteristics of Etiology, Language and Communication, Social Awareness and Interaction, Capacity to Adapt, and Nature of Noncompliance.

Etiology: The behaviors characteristic of ODD are mostly related to temperament and the youngster's perception and reaction to circumstantes and events close to them. External events can influence behavior dramatically, a critical notice in intervention. There are many theories as to the causes of Asperger's, but genetics and organicity (brain chemistry and neurology) are thought to play a big part. With these children, issues of adaptation are significantly more internal than external.

Language & Communication: Although Asperger's youngsters may have strong language skills, they are apt to comment inappropriately and even speak incessantly about a topic of their interest. The tone, volume and even the precision of their speech can be affected. They also have trouble with communication that contains humor, especially when it is subtle. ODD kids, on the other hand, can have excellent language and communication skills, and can use them well. In fact, they've often talked less than do -which is the problem.

Social Awareness & Interaction: ODD youngsters tend to be socially aware and responsive. They can participate in groups, enjoy athletics, and are good leaders (partly because they do not want to be compliant to another leader). By contrast, Asperger's youngsters do not handle social contexts well at all. In fact, they tend to isolate. Avoidance of eye contact is a big issue, and it is diagnostically significant. These youngsters often fail to sense a group code of conduct, and their interactions show it.

Capacity to Adapt: ODD children and adolescents can and do adapt to new and unique situations fairly well. It's interesting to note, however, new and unique circumstances often can put a temporary halt to defiant behavior, as the child is not "comfortable" enough to be defiant. (There's a hint there for intervention.) Youngsters with Asperger's Syndrome do not handle change well at all. Change for them is apt to bring on significant tantrum behavior and major meltdowns.

Nature of Noncompliance: ODD youngsters generally understand the compliance expected of them. They just do not want to do it. There can be a strong quality of arrogance and passive-aggression in their noncompliance. Asperger's kids, on the other hand, can distract themselves from compliance. They do not necessarily intend to refuse, but the job does not get done. It's also possible that they do not make the "connection" when a compliance request is actually a mandate, not a suggestion.

As one can read see, treatment of these two conditions would be quite different.

Source by James D Sutton

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